I expected to feel tired as a new parent, but I also felt worried and unlike myself. I love my baby, and some days still felt emotionally difficult. I hesitated to talk about it because I thought everyone expected me to feel happy.
At a health appointment, I decided to describe what had changed, how long I had felt this way and what support I had at home. I did not need to have a diagnosis or a perfect explanation to bring it up.
Talking about my wellbeing
The professional listened and discussed what further support or assessment might be appropriate. We considered my health and circumstances. With my agreement, someone I trust could help with practical needs or appointments.
“Emotional wellbeing matters during pregnancy and after birth. People can have different experiences, and asking for support is appropriate when distress feels hard to manage.”
Letting someone check in
I chose one person I trusted to check in with me and agreed on when to contact my care team again. There is no single experience of becoming a parent, and support needs can change over time.
“If you or someone else may be in immediate danger, contact local emergency services or a crisis support service right away.”
Asking for help was a way to care for myself and my family, not a judgement on how I was doing as a parent.
What this story can remind us: Emotional wellbeing matters during pregnancy and after birth. People deserve compassionate support without judgement, whatever their feelings look like.
Getting help when you are worried
If emotional distress is persistent, overwhelming or affecting daily life, contact a qualified healthcare professional or your maternity care team. If you or someone else may be in immediate danger, contact local emergency services or a crisis support service now.